Personal Standards refer to the behavior and actions you are willing to hold yourself to. You’ll find as you work on areas 1-4 of the Personal Foundation program (Completing the Past, Restore Integrity, Get Your Needs met, Extend Boundaries) that you’ll much more easily expect (and enjoy) more of yourself and of your behavior.
When a person has and honors high standards:
- They feel very, very good about themselves, and others, too.
- They become irresistibly attractive to high quality people
- They don’t get near people or situations which cause problems
What happens when one’s standards are too low?
- Continue to operate “below the line” emotionally
- Self-esteem drops; self-worth is questioned
The 10 Steps To Raising Personal Standards
- Make a list of 10 people you admire: identify the qualities, natural behavior and how they handle tough situations and people. What standards could you raise that would have you be more like them, yet still fit you, today?
- Start being unconditionally constructive every single time your open your moth, yet still say all you need to say
- Stop gossiping, good or bad, about anyone
- Let go of the standards you “Should” have; make a list of the 10 standards you most want and are ready for today
- “Get” that standards are a choice, not a requirement
- Fully respond to everything that occurs in your “space”; assume you had something to do with it, but don’t take the “blame,” Just handle it and raise your standards so it doesn’t happen again
- Always put people and relationships ahead of results
- Always put your Integrity first, Needs second, Wants third
- “Get” that others are right, and so are you
- Always maintain a reserve of time, money, love, well-being
(Reprinted with permission from Coach University, 1994)
